Learning about the success of a friend at something you’ve also been working towards, feels like a bittersweet ache deep within. You’re genuinely happy for them, yet that small voice inside whispers, “Why not me?” You’ve put in the work, faced failure, and kept going despite the odds. But every time you stumble, the weight of disappointment grows heavier. It feels like standing at the finish line, watching someone else celebrate while you’re still miles behind, wondering if you’ll ever cross that line.
You ask yourself — Is my goal strong, but my actions weak? Despite the most honest and selfless motivation from your partner, who believes in you even when you can’t, something holds you back. Is it a lack of confidence, a nagging fear of failure that paralyzes you from giving your best? Or is it overconfidence, where you convince yourself that success will eventually come without relentless effort? Maybe it’s the endless distractions — the constant noise of life pulling you in different directions, leaving you drained and unfocused. But the real question is — What is your goal, and why do you want it so badly? Do you really want it, or has the pursuit become a habit, a cycle where you’re chasing something just because you’ve been doing it for so long?
Close your eyes and picture it — everything you’ve ever wanted, already in your hands. How does it feel? Does it bring peace, fulfillment, or a sense of relief? If it does, then why are you still stuck, unable to channel your energy effectively? Sometimes, it’s not about whether you want it — it’s about whether you’re willing to truly fight for it. The truth is, wanting something isn’t enough. You need to be obsessed with it, willing to block out everything that doesn’t align with that goal. But staying focused is hard when distractions are everywhere, and self-doubt creeps in like an uninvited guest.
It’s okay to be vulnerable, Dove. People understand your journey and are willing to lift you when you’re too tired to stand. Don’t be afraid to ask for that emotional anchor when the waves get rough❤
The Bittersweet Sting of Success and Self-Doubt!